I, Myra Walden, developed the model based on my own experience as a client in therapy with a Client
Centered therapist, Dr. Marge Witty, my never-ending study of the human psyche, and
over 30 years of practicing psychotherapy in community mental health centers and private practice. In
1998, I started studying Nonviolent Communication and began to incorporate the concepts
into my life and therapy practice. In 2021, I codified my experience and developed a coherent therapy
model. We will need research to demonstrate its effectiveness, gain credibility and broaden usage in the
field. Below is my testimonial.
I was 28 years old. At a gathering of friends, each of us was to answer the question,
“Where do you see yourself in 10 years?”
Myra: “I see myself divorced.”
Friend: “Myra, but you’re not even dating!”
No, I wasn’t dating at the time, but I knew that if I were to get married, no one would put up
with my temper for very long. My anger and reactivity were an aftereffect of the many years of severe
lack of safety and respect I went through as a teenager that resulted in self-loathing and troubled
relationships. As it turns out, I did not divorce.
At age 33, I sought psychotherapy and pursued my healing in earnest. The work bore fruit. My beloved
late husband of 35 years, Peter, saw me through the angry stage, and we built a relationship of
connection, closeness, and communion. Many of my dreams have come true: to have very
close friends, to become a therapist, a goal I conceived at age 12 and pursued at 30; to give workshops
for mental health professionals and write a book to share what I’ve learned, and more. In 2024,
six years after Peter died, I met and married Kerry, a bright and loving man I adore.
There are multiple factors that contributed to these outcomes, not the least of
which were receiving nondirective therapy and finding a needs-based compass to guide me in building a
fulfilling life. And that’s what I want to share with others.